At this point, I think he is doing it out of spite more than anything else. But my husband just keeps going away for hours. The feelings I fought the first year of our relationship are coming back, I am sad all the time, I cry at night. He has been doing this for months now, and it is destroying me. I then asked him to not run away every time we fight, and to please tell me when he goes to the cemetery so we can go together.
Now, this is very weird from him, because he, at best, visits L´s grave three times a year.
When I asked where he went, he told me that he “went to see her” (L). About three months ago, every time we have an argument, he takes the car and goes away for hours. We just seem to blow off t everything out of proportion. The issue: after ten years of marriage, we have been having a lot of arguments, derived for bad communication. I now like to say that L and I would have been best friends. My husband knows this and was very supporting of me and the treatment. I went to therapy for a year to treat that, and I manage to overcome this issue. To put it bluntly, I was having trouble accepting my husband’s past, and that he did not stop loving his late wife but was forced to do so.
At the beginning of our relationship, I had some issues with his romantic history. I met my husband 5 years after her passing. Sadly, she passed away because of on-going health issues. Prior to our relationship, he had been married for two years to L (22f). I (35f) married my husband (37m) 10 years ago.